It's all OK. Really.

It’s all ok. My experience is safe, even when it's uncomfortable. Really.

What would become possible if you deeply knew that whatever you’re experiencing is OK?

Here are some of the feelings, in no particular order, that I experience, as part of being human:

Anxious, calm, delighted, nervous, overwhelmed, excited, angry, joyful, hopeful, annoyed, stressed, irritated, playful, sad, impatient, nervous, confident, peaceful, happy, motivated, worried, low.

Can you relate? Where do you think these feelings are coming from? What do you think they are telling you about?

I used to believe that these feelings were telling me about things like my circumstances, other people, my past, my future, or who I am as a person. I used the feelings as a navigation system, a way of deciding what it would be a good idea to do. Sometimes this worked out ok. Sometimes not so well. And every time it didn’t work out so well, I’d think “there’s something wrong with me”.

Here are some examples of when it didn’t work out so well:

“I feel angry and it seems to be coming from my child’s behaviour, so it will be a good idea to express my anger by shouting at them.”

“I feel anxious and it seems to be coming from a conversation I need to have with someone, so it will be a good idea to avoid that conversation and not have it.”

“I feel overwhelmed and sad and it seems to be coming from my circumstances so it will be a good idea to try and stuff that feeling down by eating junk food, because that’s a darn lot easier than changing my circumstances.”

“I feel low and it seems to be coming from my past mistakes so it will be a good idea to be super vigilant and never live in the moment, in case I make another mistake.”

“I feel happy and it seems to be coming from being validated by this person so it will be a good idea to do whatever this person wants me to.”

“I feel peaceful and it seems to be coming from my meditation practice so it will be a good idea to stick to that practice and to beat myself up if I don’t and to worry that I’m not that good at meditating when I don't seem to have the peaceful feeling after meditating."

Seeing that whatever I’m feeling comes to me through thought, moment to moment, rather than being caused by any of the multitude of “reasons” that I used to hang my feelings on, gives me the freedom to just feel the feeling and move forward.

We can make uncomfortable feelings into a “problem” when we judge them as such, go into resistance and expend energy trying to “fix” them.

We can even make lovely feelings into a "problem" when we chase them so much that we are in fear of losing them when we do have them.

The most peaceful thing for me about seeing that my experience works inside out, 100% of the time, is the knowing that it’s all ok. Really.

What would become possible for you if you knew this deeply?

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