I have a question for you: If you knew that it would improve all your relationships and make life more beautiful, would you want to get better at listening to others? If we’re really honest (this is for all of us, me too), what is often called listening may be better described as waiting for our turn to speak. Would you like to hear a few examples of things I've found myself doing while supposedly listening to someone else? 1. Scanning my memory bank for something that relate

My article last week about being a mediocre mum seemed to land with people on my mailing list. Here I take a look at the kind of things that can hold a “good mum” (or “good dad”) pattern in place and have us struggling as parents. It's also relevant to just about any relationship you can think of. From a very young age, we are given messages about what it means to be “good”. These messages come from home, from school, from media, from all around. It also seems that as young c

A few years ago, in a fun exercise, a friend of mine identified one of my qualities as “fizz”. Intuitively I knew what he meant, but it was hard to put into words and felt a little uncomfortable. Fizz was something positive and yet it was somehow anxiety’s cousin, which my mind had some negative judgements about. Around the same time, I came across a quote shared by Jeff Foster on his Facebook page. I cannot find the exact quote now, but I can share the meaning I heard in it,